Simple Tricks to Let Them Play

Picture if you will, the kids are playing outside but they are moving a little too far away for comfort. Without hesitation, Mom yells out, “Come back please, you are getting too far away.” Then comes the Dad response, “Oh, let them play, they are fine.” Well, according to research, dad might be right. I know, I know, dad is right! Shocking! Well, let’s explore why.

We live in a society that is full of dangers lurking around us at all times. At least that is what the media outlets make it seem like. When in actuality, there is more fun than danger to find.

“Free, unstructured play is the means by which children learn to make friends, overcome their fears, solve their own problems, and generally take control of their own lives.” – (Free to Learn. Gray, Peter)

What I am getting at is, let them play!

Take a trip down memory lane with me for a moment. Close your eyes; let your mind take you back to when you were 10 years old. Running out the door as you say, “Be back later mom! Going to play ball.” With only slight hesitation, Mom says, “Okay, but be back before dinner.” Today’s youth is not getting to experience that freedom.

You may be thinking, “How do I let my children have this sense of freedom, but still keep an eye on them.”

Here are a few simple tricks.

1. Use trickery to your advantage! Be there observing without them realizing. For example, when in a park, always choose a spot to observe where you have sight of them, however, they can not see you. This gives them the illusion of free unstructured play. Sit where they cannot see you at all times.
2. It is 2018 and technology is amazing! Use tracking technology to keep tabs on where your adventurous children are. There are great apps and other resources including smart watches/fit bits that have tracking capabilities. These devices give your little pioneer a chance to explore a little farther from home. Also giving you less anxiety about where they are.
3. Give them the knowledge they need to be independent explorers! Teach them how to travel safely from home to the nearest park. Show them where safe zones are if they ever get lost but most importantly, teach them responsibility!

Children have an incredible ability to learn and adapt on their own, we just need to give them the space to do so. Studies have shown that children learn best through free, unstructured, unsupervised play! Especially when that play involves other kids. It can be hard to give your kids more freedom, but as time passes, you as the parent will start to see the incredible impact play has on your children. So when Dad says, “Oh, just let them play,” take it seriously, because he just might be right.